Least he’s finally admitted what we all knew. Sad it didn’t work out…..
To be honest, I think he was talking about April (or depending on how long ago this “incident” was - Justine?). I mean, it’s public knowledge that he dated April (she’s repeatedly referred to him as an “ex-boyfriend”) and then the never-confirmed-but-always-heavilly-hinted-at relationship with Justine. But there’s never been a time that he or Clare have ever referred to each other as anything but friends and business associates. I think the #cloby shippers out there are reading too much into Toby’s words. I dunno, my opinion only.
Okay, let me start by saying I don’t mean any disrespect to Clare (or whoever it is about if it isn’t Clare).. I have no real beef with her, I don’t even know her. I’m sure she’s a wonderful and intelligent woman who makes mistakes like everybody else does.
Seriously? I mean, really? He’s intelligent, funny, silly, spontaneous, creative, talented, caring, sweet, youthful, forward thinking (in regards specifically to sexuality and gender equality), and not to mention hothothot——- and you left him because of his career?! That makes him happy!
Maybe I’m just too ~in lurve~ (lol) to see sense, but all I can think is that if that man was mine, I’d be perfectly willing to be in a polygamous relationship with him and Youtube. To me it’s kind of obvious that his career is an important part of his life. It’s not a hobby, a boredom thing, or just some way to make “easy” (if it were actually easy, we’d all be youtubers) cash.
You can easily see (or at least I can, maybe it’s a creativity thing) that he’s an artist, and . Making videos, is obviously his passion, it is what makes his eyes light up, you can see it right there in his friggin videos whenever he gets to get a new idea. It’s goddamn beautiful.
Anyone who would want to take that away from him doesn’t DESERVE to be with him in the first place. Anyone who would want to take someone’s passion from them doesn’t deserve to be with anyone…
Late for a date because he got caught up with work? He showed up, didn’t he? People are late for things, it happens. That sounds like an easily forgivable offense to me. \
Toby, if you’re reading this- Honey, you can bring your laptop to bed with you, for all I care. If we’re out on a date and you get the urge, you can use me as a phone caddy so that you have hands free to do dance moves with. And I do a really good BOOP!, too.
I, for one, would support the passions of my partner, whatever they were, and I’d try to be understanding in regards to something so important. Being there to support you and help you grow is what a partner is supposed to be for. Relationships and love are for sharing passions, not snuffing them out because they’re not always convenient.
If you want something you can break the spirit of and modify to suit your needs and only work to carry you, then I believe the creature you’re looking for is a horse, not a man.
Why is this such a common problem? If you need a certain amount of time to be spent on you to be happy, and you are interested in a man with a career that demands lots of his time- save the both of you some trouble and find yourself someone else because damn it, by trying to make that work knowing your needs do NOT match his life you’re just being ridiculous. (Conversely, a man with a demanding career who knowingly gets with a super-needy partner is ASKING for this headache.)
He had the job when you met him, so you KNOW his job takes up a lot of his time. If you think that will ever be a problem, then DON’T GET WITH HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE. He should not have to choose between his career and his partner.
You wouldn’t like to be put in such a position, would you?